3 Lessons from the Vampire Diaries

About Vampire Diaries

It is an American supernatural drama TV series based on the book series of the same name written by L.J Smith. It consists of 8 seasons with an average of 22 episodes in each one. Throughout the course of all the seasons, the characters shower unconditional love, unbreakable friendship, make myriad sacrifices for their loved ones,  learn to cope with death and realize the importance of family. Each and every major event that takes place in their lives accentuate one of the mentioned values and its significance towards the general betterment. On the same note, there are some habits that we can incorporate into our lives by analyzing some of the characters in the show.

1. Journaling

Elena Gilbert, the female protagonist of the show is portrayed as an orphan as the first episode unfolds. A car accident leaves her parents dead while her, miraculously alive. She’s filled with a plethora of emotions ranging from grief and sadness to hopelessness and anger. So, she uses her journal as a way to vent off that pent up baggage and move forward with her life. This habit can be easily adopted by sparing a couple of minutes at night. It is an efficient way to track one’s progress in life. You don’t have to record everything that takes place in a day. Instead, jot down some moments that made you laugh, feel special and just made you feel good in general. Adding further to that, you can also pen down the lessons you’ve learnt, the best practices you’ve discovered, or the mistakes that you’ve committed. This will give you a new sense of perspective everyday and make you wiser. After a couple of years, it’ll give you a perfect path for walking down the memory lane and reminiscing all the moments that life has given you so far. You’ll figure out a lot about yourself in the process than you ever will through somebody else’s input. Give it a shot and relish its benefits!

2. Banish negative thoughts through the mind-control thingy.

First, a little info on the past. The witches (one of the many supernatural beings in the show) are gifted with the ability to craft spells and bring the impossible into existence. One of their safety spells from vampires when performed, causes high-level pain to their ears and head . Normally, we tend to do things that make us feel jubilant. If it causes agony, our first instinct is to avoid it at any cost. So, whenever a negative thought enters your brain, visualize yourself with that kind of pain that drops you down to your knees. (The one that Damon Salvatore so beautifully pulls off)  The thought of dropping down because of the pain will drain a lot of energy. So, the act of eliminating that negative thought is a lot easier than imagining yourself with that kind of pain. If it doesn’t work very well for you, try relating the consequences of having negative thoughts , such as wastage of time to something painful to hear. For example, wastage of time could have been swiftly replaced by doing something that you enjoy and would like to cherish for the many years to come.

3. Act on the problem!

All the characters in the show are confronted with zillions of problems and dire situations. The amazing part of it is that they act on the problem then and there. They don’t let their enemies get the most of them. Granted, there’s a lot of violence involved. But again, it’s just fiction. What I’m emphasizing here is this:  When something is bothering you, don’t just sit idle and wait for the pieces to fall into place. Try everything in your power to abate the storm. Life isn’t always supposed to be all rainbows and butterflies and pleasant weather. It’s a package of experiences that lift us to cloud nine, shatter us, give us  hope and help us climb up to the paradise. Remember the 90-10 rule; Your focus on the problem should only be 10% while the remaining 90% should be directed towards the solution. Concoct all possible solutions and in the meantime,  try not to cook up all the ways it can go awry. Have faith in the action.

Life Advice

Most of us are movie fanatics. Before you grab your bowl of popcorn for the next one, make it a point to watch it with an intention of gaining something valuable at the end of the movie. By doing so, you’re making a decision to become prudent which will aid you in the long run in different manners.

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How to Resist the Urge to Bunk Classes

Imagine the following scene:

It’s the night before your midterms and you’re engrossed with the Season 4 of Sherlock Holmes streaming on Netflix. Add your friends to the picture. They have their noses in their books with eyes wide open, trying to visualize how JFET actually works. You’re not haunted by the same issue because of your professor’s one-hour thorough explanation that your friends traded, in exchange for simple pleasures.  Domination of perennial laziness or barfing another snack or resorting to a quick nap are the most common ones that a college student faces. Of course, it’s hard to say “no” when your bestfriend is determined to drag you along to the canteen but deep down, you know that it’s not the most sensible action to take. In that instantaneous moment, it’s natural to follow the easy way out. The question here is : How do you take the road less travelled by?

Below are some ways to confront this predicament.

1.  Calculate the cost of your each class.

Take a piece of paper and write the following down and fill it up.

Tuition fees:

No. of working days:

Average number of classes per day:

Alright, now, divide your tuition fees by the no. of working days. The result that you get is the amount of money you’re technically paying every single day. So, next time, when you plan to take the whole day off, just remember the loan you’d have to pay off in the future. The whole “clearing-off-debt” is unavoidable. When the times does come to return the money with interest, you’ll feel proud of yourself if you had leveraged the classes.

If you further divide by the average no. of classes, voila! You’ll have the amount you spend on each class. Ingrain the cost into your brain to help you fight the urge to skip next time.

2.  Remind yourself of the less number of hours you’d have to study

If you put your full focus on the lecture unfolding, you’d gain a lot more knowledge than you ever will while studying with an unfocused mind before the exams. When you open your textbook to a new chapter, you’ll be overwhelmed with the behemoth amount of information. There’ll be multiple sections and the human brain will begin giving equal attention to each section. This is one of the biggest mistakes anyone can ever make. We end up squandering our energy on the sections that are not that important instead of focusing on the content that is essential for understanding a topic.

This is where your professor’s lecture will help you manifold. The professor would’ve prepared in advance and will convey the stuff that he/she believes is important in a chapter. You’re far better off picking that info up into your brain surrounded by your peers while asking questions as opposed to the mindless scanning of the pages.

When you open the book after class, you’ll definitely connect the text to the instances in your professor’s lecture. This will act as a second reinforcement of the concepts/ideas. You’ll be far ahead than your numerous sleepy-head friends.

3. You might receive a Certificate of Appreciation!

Many universities have the habit of honouring their students who have distinguished themselves in various aspects. One such is the “Attendance” aspect. Some universities demand a 90% above overall attendance, while the others are satisfied with a 80+%.

This will serve as an incentive to the students who are fond of having a folder full of certificates and a collection of awards. If you’re one of them and your university offers it, you must not let this opportunity slip by! It’s hard, but you’re harder than that. So, make sure you note down the criteria for the certificate before the advent of the semester. In this way, even when you feel like binge bunking, the tiny piece of info that you took time to write down will swerve you back on track.

4.  How bad do you want that scholarship?

The scholarships that the universities themselves offer have a list of criteria that has to be met.  Some of them include paying fees on time, maintaining a certain CGPA, availing only a particular no. of permissions to go home etc. It also includes a certain percentage of overall attendance as well as a subject-wise attendance. Many people have “praise-worthy” CGPA(s) but an overall attendance that’s not so great. When the notice gets put up and then you realize that you need an 80% attendance and you go like, “Damn! I should’ve been more careful!”. Yeah, you get the picture. I’m sure you don’t want to be in that crowd.

5. Bunking leaves a negative impression on professors

When you’re off to college for the first time, you will sooner or later realize the importance of your professors in your life.

They are the sources for recommendations to attractive internships, for research projects, and for uplifting your life when you’re not sure about the direction of your career. Maintaining an amicable relationship with them should be on top of your priority list. When you skip classes, often, it’s essential translation (at least to the professor) is this : “I have other stuff that’s a lot more important that your class”. Not cool. At all. So, make sure you don’t skip a lot so as to gain that good impression.

I really hope that reading these above five reasons will make you hesitate while taking the decision to bunk a class. With that all being said, there’s nothing wrong in “once-in-a-while” skipping because life will become unattractive with the monotony if you don’t. Just be prudent when it comes to the no. of classes you bunk on a weekly basis.

 

The Goodness of Gratitude

A large portion of the world’s population squanders time by worrying about the past, the present and the future. They let their situations dictate their journeys and fall prey to the concept of ‘unfairness’ and ‘inequality’ of life. You see, there are only two ways a person can handle an affliction— be so engrossed in agony to the point of immobilization or be responsible of the problem and feel grateful for the present while working for a fulfilling future. Simply put, gratitude means thankfulness. It can be thankfulness for the simple pleasures such as a long, relaxing shower, the breathtaking scenery the sun paints while setting, or even the laziness on Sundays. The fact that you are alive today, conversing with your family and friends is in itself something to rejoice for.

Practicing the art of gratitude is one of the greatest gifts and investments you can make for yourself. It shifts your focus from the vacancies to the abundance that’s already present. You can do this by listing out three to five things that you’re grateful for every day. It can be done either right when you wake up in the morning or before you lull yourself to a blissful slumber at night. When life throws one of its impediments at you, like it always does, just looking at your gratitude list and changing your vibe can be of immense help in putting you back on track. You can also write a gratitude letter to a person whose presence adds value to your life. Not only will it brighten up his/her spirits, it’ll also serve as a remainder for you to be cautious with your words when matters go awry between you two.

Research shows that being grateful on a daily basis leads to more happiness, better health, deeper relationships and increased productivity.

So, it’s for you to decide whether you want to be bored, miserable, and sad or be energized, enthusiastic and full of joy by incorporating this small habit into your life.